We Don't Want To Know

    There are many questions that swirl in our minds..what do I do now?..who am I?..who are you?..what did you say??!!.. For most situations, especially the ones with readily available answers, we are conditioned to ask. We ask people questions when we already know the answer just to see if they will lie..and then we ask why did you lie!! Life is all about answers to questions because it fills our need for information, fulfillment, and directions. The problem comes when the question and the answer hit a little too close to home (pauses and shakes head).
       See when the question becomes why did this happen? or what was/is my role in the situation, answers are far and few between. Aside from blaming someone else or diverting the conversation, the truth about it is, we don't want to know. None of us really want to look at our situation, whether its financial, relationship, or anything personal, and say the answer to it is that I messed up big time. We see it time and time again. Walk with me here....the husband who cheats on his wife and then presents the argument that SHE is the one who won't forgive him.. the wife who leaves her husband, takes the child, and then says HE is not really around...What about this one..the prisoner who says THEY got me locked up and won't let me out. See the answer to all of these things is the same. If YOU are involved, then the bulk of the responsibility is YOURS!! We don't want to know that though. We would rather blame or beautify to diminish our own involvement when the answer looks at us in the mirror every day.
         Don't believe me? Check this out..We have created a whole market and business cycle solely dedicated to this. It's called counseling. Now instead of examining ourselves and making strides to do better in life, we would rather take one last shot at convincing someone that we can't see the problem or don't know what it is. So we pay people to tell us the basic things that we have chosen to be blind to. Counseling is not a scientific breakthrough, it's the outsourcing of our personal responsibility to better ourselves and the world around us. The next time you can't figure out what's going on or why everything seems to be happening to you..look in the mirror and you will see why.
       No one treats you bad, you let them. No one made you leave, you packed up. No one took your money, you allowed it to be taken. No one set you up, you made yourself available. The truth about it is our inner me is our worst enemy.