I guess the strange part about it is I believe that the
people who stay together on the path of perfection have to deal with issues
too…I guess it’s just the way they handle the issues when they appear. So is it
the issues or the fortitude of the individuals? Don’t know the answer to that;
it probably varies depending on the case in point. But there is one issue and
resolution/conclusion that does not vary. It concerns the love in a
relationship. When you have to question where it is or why it’s gone then it’s
over.
Now that’s a very deep concept because I’m not talking about
when feelings get hurt. I’m not talking about when someone doesn’t feel special
at the moment. I’m not even talking about when there has been a breakdown in
communication and everything is at a standstill. Those are all really bad times
and difficult to deal with but it’s not the same thing as realizing the love is
gone. That’s different all together.
When the love is gone that really means it was never there.
There may have been some good feelings, optimism, great conversation, and a
side order of lust but those things fade and leave holes. Love is what prevents
the recession of those initial emotions from leaving holes and empty places in
our relationships.
People are real quick to say they love you because of all
the emotions and hormones and feelings that surface at the beginning. You will
know if they really love you when you still feel it through the fights,
misunderstandings, mistakes, mishaps, and just dumb stuff. That mushy stuff
when it’s all good ain’t love.
Everyone who celebrates the old couple for being married so
long while simultaneously realizing they will never make that many
anniversaries knows that feeling of the love being gone. Either they lost it
for somebody or somebody lost it for them. The truth about it is, if it ever
got lost it was never really there.
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