His Wandering Eyes

I’m about to let you know about some man stuff if you are not a man, but if a man actually reads this he will know I’m speaking the truth. Understand that in order to release this information I had to go to the tribe of men elders and ask them to grant me permission to tell man stuff. The meeting will reconvene after they read my blog.

Over the years I have found myself caught in situations where the argument revolved around who or what somebody was looking at. The argument didn’t always involve me either! That issue has probably been around since the second woman. Not sure whether he was looking or she thought he was, but I’m sure somebody said something...not a lot of clothes back then.

If you want a simple answer to the question…yes he was looking at her. That is not a reason to be upset. Men are visual beings, meaning that we achieve gratification when we observe nice looking things. Men give the once over to cars, guns, tools, technology (phones & computers), and yes…women too. We, men, appreciate well put together items. We admire the magnificence of a television. We drool over the curves of a favorite sports car. And we do like the look of a nice looking lady.

I need to put a pin right here.

There is a difference between a look and an optical molestation of a sexual nature. A look does not ooze disrespect, even if the moment is inopportune; like right when she looks at him to make eye contact. (cringes)

Taking pin out.

 Men actually believe that women dress up and attempt to look good so that people will look at them. Men and women. We have all heard the story about how the woman wants to look good for herself. Blah, blah, blah… Looking good is an outward gesture. The only way it could satisfy anyone is by convincing them that they have met the standards of the outside world. People, men and women, make a point to look their best so other people will see. So that other people will appreciate it. So that other people will find them to be attractive and inviting. That is the whole point. It is the same reason that they include skin in so many advertisements and television shows. I don’t want to get into a discussion about all of that though. I’m just talking about when a man looks.

I have heard too many women get upset because she happened to catch her man’s eye when he just happened to be looking at another woman. Ok…waiting for the horror….still no sign of it…what’s the big deal? Nothing. There is no big deal when a man looks at a nice looking woman. If he starts drooling, then maybe there’s a problem. If you walk into a room and her pictures are all over the wall then it’s an issue worth looking at. If you find the woman in his closet then he is probably guilty of something. If he looks at her, then it’s normal. The truth about it is, it’s probably just his wandering eyes.