Real Men Work

Whoever you are, I am so glad that you are reading this. The thing I like about telling the truth (at least how I see it) is that it allows me to address certain things and by writing some of this stuff down I am able to read back through and hone my philosophies when it comes to life. I also hope that through some of explanations and I am able to help somebody along the way by offering a different or hidden perspective. For various reasons, this one hits close to home so here it is.

Statement: Real men work.

The truth about it: If you ever used that while talking to your man, brother, cousin, husband, or friend then reflect on how that worked out for you. Not so good huh? I know it. That’s because it’s stupid. Not a stupid statement but a stupid way to go about motivating someone. Now that I have that out of the way I can get to the real meat of my point.

Every man works. Whatever a man does to generate his income is his work. Some men have it all laid out for them and don't have to worry. Some men settle into nice jobs after college and secondary degres. For some men it involves chasing illusive dreams. Some men hustle money from family, close friends, and associates. Still other men generate income from illegal activities. The way he does his work may not be right. The income he generates may not be sufficient to support a family. He may forever chase his dreams and not quite reach that large payday. He may be ostracized from the family for being a crook. Either way it goes, technically speaking most men do work in some type of way. When is the last time you saw a man who didn’t work die on the side of the road naked and starved to death? There is some type of work being done somewhere.

It must be understood that there is a difference between men who AREN’T working and men who DON’T work. Real men work. Right. So that also means that they get laid off, penalized, fired, injured, and passed over for promotion. Those are the things that happen in the life of most men who AREN’T working. If you find yourself with someone who DOESN’T work, that is not a new development. They DIDN’T work when you met them and they WON'T start because you are in the picture. More than likely, reality will set in and some type of employment will be sought but it’s a developmental type of thing and can’t be forced…especially by talking trash.

Real men work, but the truth about it is, every man works you just have to decide if you can deal with his job.