I Know Who You Are, I Just Don’t Give..

Wow…I know what popped into my mind. I am somewhat ashamed of the admission but that is the truth. It makes me think about how some things go together but don’t necessarily have to. I mean that thought could be finished in many ways. It could be: give my time to just anyone and that should show you how much I care. It could be: give my phone number out like that. Or it could even be: give any attention to people when they are out of line. But more than likely it will be: give a #&@! And of course this ‘got’ me to thinking.

What could possibly make someone get to that place? (drum roll……) When one person in a relationship is trying to make the other person bow down to status.

In an effort to make this simple I will say this. Think about every time you have ever gone anywhere and the person working there, for whatever reason, seemed to go out of their way to be a prick about everything just because they could. Like the lady in the gas station refusing to sell me beer because I’m of age but she had the right to refuse because I laughed when she asked for my I.D…. I’m 35. Or when someone in any position of authority abuses it by talking down to people and belittling them as though they aren’t really people. No one should speak down to anyone but it becomes especially tragic when the subject is forced to listen because of rank or status unless it’s the military. The instance I hate most is when someone in a relationship creates drama just to be attended to. If that has never happened to you then you should get out more. And as with most common things like that, I still say if you don’t know anyone like that then you are probably that person.

If you are truly with someone, you shouldn’t try to make the other person prove it. I’m not talking about FB statuses and pics, I’m talking about testing people to qualify your status. There is no need to fake a problem or to be disgruntled because he is out with the guys or she is out with the girls to see if the other person will forsake a good time to tend to your fake needs or trumped up problems. You should NEVER fake an illness to see what kind of care you will receive. False cries of distress to see what the response time is will never be an accurate tool for measuring importance. A story already exists about that character….it’s called The Boy Who Cried Wolf. Remember at the end all was lost because nobody believed there was a wolf because he faked it so many times before. It will be the same result when the other party quits taking the tests that are designed for qualifications of status.

The truth about it is, if you continue to test your partner they will (in so many words or ways) say, “I know who you are… I just don’t give a #&@!