Who Can I Trust

Everybody has asked this question. And I’m willing to bet that most people were asking themselves the question. The major issue with you asking yourself this question is that not having the information readily available means it’s going to be hard to find the answer.  A person would need at least one of these things and probably all:   some confessing, counseling, and soul searching. That’s the issue. The major flaw with you asking yourself that question is that there is no answer. That’s right…no answer.

Certain questions can only be answered when they are complete. “What am I going to….?” to WHAT? Eat, wear, see, find, do? “How do you….?” How do I what? I could answer if I knew what was being asked. It’s the same thing with “Who can I trust….?” Trust when, with what, to do what, for how long?

I don’t believe that all people aren’t honorable or that nobody is trustworthy, I believe that trust is too easily bruised in relation to the time it takes to mature. Listen…it feels like robbery because the minute you drive your car off of the car it depreciates and you lose roughly 20% of the value. That is bad. But it pales in comparison the trust depreciation of a friend who, in many ways, drives off of our lot. I bet it’s more than 20%. Now if that same car were to breakdown shortly after the warranty period then we would do everything humanly possible to get it back up and running at 100%. Once the trust is broken down we are more likely to let it rust and decay in the barn than we are to get it serviced AND there is no warranty period. The newer the relationship when the trust is damaged, the easier it is to bounce (leave).

Inevitably, on some level, the trust in any relationship is bound to be shaken if not stirred so I guess the poignant question becomes: Why does it always happen? It happens because no one can live, operate, or understand the way we would like them to at all times and that always leads to differences in judgments. Judgments on opposing sides yield different results. In the case of relationships both people are never ALWAYS in agreement and perceived errors in judgment or bad results lead to trust issues.

IF

You(I) let it happen. You(I) keep issues unresolved. You(I) fail to communicate effectively. You(I) lie. You(I) can read minds.

I do need to clear some things up. I am not talking about the horrific events and lies that deserve expulsion from life. I am not suggesting that anyone put up with those outrageous breaches of trust and violations of the extreme type. Some people just really do not deserve to remain in the friend/acquaintance bracket. My only advice is to be cautious and only make important decisions after calming down and thinking about it thoroughly. I’m really only referencing those times when we overreact to some trust weight lifting just because someone worked us out. Get tough. Then get over it.

The truth about it is…If you don’t already know who you can trust then it’s going to be a process.