Not How It’s Supposed To Be

And I swear that title feels like an understatement. When I look back to the plans that I had for me, I find it amazing how far I am away from the destination I had set. I had it all worked out and everything seemed foolproof. I could spend the rest of eternity trying to explain the salacious details of my trek through life and I promise it would be a good read…it would probably be a series of novels (all #1bestsellers), but this blog is not really about that. Think about it. What can you really do when you realize this is not how my life is supposed to be? I’m glad you asked.

There is only one thing that any of us can do. It doesn’t matter what has transpired. It doesn’t matter what was said or who was hurt. It doesn’t matter what news has been discovered or even who lied about what. There is no obstacle that can prevent us from this one action.

We can always MOVE ON. I can’t really say how anyone should do it, but I can say that I know it needs to be done. When you look at any aspect of your life or life in total and realize that it’s not how it’s supposed to be; keep these things in mind about moving on before you decide to. They may affect your decision making.

On your way to “ON” do not carry malice, ill wishes, hate, hurt, or scandal because this will derail your progress. Those things are anchors that bind us to the very things we are moving away from.

Do not divorce yourself from guilt. That is the internal mechanism we have for determining our own decency. In the places where guilt does not exist, neither does reality. We have all done something wrong. Own it. Do not let it own you and turn your guilt into depression and denial.

Decide what direction will get you to “ON”. Here’s a simple formula I use if you need one. Right or Left is sideways and will not result in any forward progress; Backwards will put me in the place I left.

Moving on is a personal journey and holding on to someone else for the ride is a rodeo. They are going to throw you and even if you finish the ride somebody will still make you get off after your time is done.

And here is the last but very important point. Once a decision has been made to move on, the person moving on is not the same person who arrived in the beginning. Whatever is being left behind has had a significant impact on life and perception. To deny that fact is to lie in the mirror.

Most of us can look at life or certain aspects of life and say this is not how it’s supposed to be, but the truth about it is, all of us who can recognize that need to move on.